When confronted by a difficult conversation, frustrating email, or challenging personality at work how do you respond? Are you calm, present, and regulated, or do you tend to lose control and rule with an iron fist?

If the switch from reacting emotionally to staying present and balanced is harder for you, you aren’t alone. Don’t be discouraged if you need some help working through your default programming, it’s likely had a hold of you since childhood.

Stressed, Yelling, and Overwhelmed? Struggling to consciously choose how you want to respond? Want to push performance boundaries, show up as your best, and maintain the necessary focus and resilience to achieve your goals, I’ll tell you what I tell my clients--it all begins with a deep breath.

“Buddy, please don’t ever do that to me again.” This quiet, honest plea created connection and compassion. Rather than act on his initial impulse, which was to reactively yell, “Get in the car! How can you be so irresponsible and disrespectful? You’re so grounded!”

This one line changed everything in their relationship, find out why.